You Do You And I'll Do Me...

Happy New Year everybody! I hope you had a great time celebrating. I'm starting the year as positively as possible. So, sorry to start the year off with a rant but I promise it has a positive message. 

Over the past year I've become increasingly agitated by those who wish to make a comment about my makeup and skin. Wether it be a bad contour colour, a crap application of false lashes or because I like wearing dark lipsticks, it annoys me that friends and family think it's okay to point out my makeup mishaps. I'm learning, I'm far from perfect and it's my right to wear my face the way I like it. 

I am no expert nor do I claim to be. I'm damn awful at contouring, I overpluck my eyebrows and I pick foundations in the wrong colour. I just know a little more than a majority of my friends and help them with things beauty related. The truth is, I am just a girl who abuses her 25% work discount on makeup and watches a lot of youtube tutorials. (True.) 

I wear makeup because I like to feel better about myself and it is a creative outlet for me. It's a hobby. It's what I enjoy. Yes, I wear a lot on my face and spend a lot of money on stuff when I probably don't need to but I have acne and being able to cover that makes me feel good. 

It's completely acceptable if I'm not properly blended or my liner has smudged for someone to kindly point it out. I appreciate that. But I make choices for myself. Boys tell me dark lipsticks are unattractive. My Dad asks how many 'layers' I have on. My spotless friends suggest I wash my face better. I would never do the same. I have only made the exception when I know someone would want to know if something wasn't right and it could be fixed easily. Once my friend had a peel off mask on the night before and it didn't come off properly because, well, they never do. I gently told her about it and we laughed it off and I helped her sort it out. I've also suggested people wash their brushes because i'm a hygiene freak. However, I would never tell someone their blusher was to bright, their eyebrows were too dark or their lipstick wasn't the right shade because it's as much that person's choice as it is mine to wear what I want how I want. 

I also do not need people telling me I'm making my skin worse with what I wear or how much I wear. I know what works for me. The trial and error process of cleansers and toners, foundations and powders is constantly ongoing but I understand my skin now. I cannot begin to explain the number of times I have decided to touch up my eyeliner or conceal a few blemishes at school and have been shouted at because I am doing it. I have been called 'vain' or 'self obsessed' when it's more along the lines of 'perfectionist' and 'self-concious'. People who know these things (and how incredibly sensitive I am) still think it's funny to steal my makeup, touch my face because they know I don't like it or tell me I'm wearing too much makeup. I hope I've never deliberately upset someone knowing their weaknesses. It sucks. 

On the other end of the spectrum people make unnecessary comments about my skin on the occasions I don't wear a lot of makeup ('are you sick?' 'you look really pale' 'has it been a bad night?' 'what's happened?' 'your anxiety must be bad' 'you're brave to leave the house' 'wow I can't believe you're not wearing makeup'). I need positvity and covering my flaws and feeling comfortable in myself is a huge step towards that but the same time, I'm not someone who will put makeup on if I'm going to a friends house, going somewhere but coming straight back home or if I'm staying in all day. People are used to seeing me with a full face at school, work and socially so are 'shocked' and make a huge deal when I am facially naked infront of them. They don't like it either way. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. 

What I'm trying to say is, you are 100% free to wear exactly what you want, when and how you want to and shouldn't feel bad about that. Wear a statement lipstick for a day of English lessons, go bare faced to the supermarket, wear an extreme colour just because you feel brave enough to. As Queen Madonna said 'express yourself'. Don't let anyone stop you, don't let other people's opinions control you. 

You do you and I'll do me. 

'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.' 
- Eleanor Roosevelt

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